Help Your Child Cope with a Traumatic Event

It’s unfortunate, but occasionally, children do have to deal with a traumatic event in their lives—from a death or divorcing parents to worries about events in the news.

Such events can cause children to react differently. They can withdraw or be disruptive, have trouble sleeping, have irrational fears or stomachaches, or their grades might drop.

Some reactions might be immediate. Some children will show signs of distress later. Experts say parents should be aware and watch for signs of distress.

To help your mentee after a traumatic event:

• Assess your own reactions. Your calmness will help your mentee be calm.
• Help your mentee express his feelings.
• Don’t force your mentee to talk about it. But explain the situation as best you can.
• Listen to your mentee without judgment. Tell him it’s normal to feel upset.
• Let your mentee cry or be sad.
• Reassure your mentee . Tell him you are there for him.
• Spend extra time together.

Help your mentee feel in control. Let him make some decisions about small things, such as meals or clothes. Engage him in helping others affected by the incident.